polypanpride:

Reflections on life as a Poly

It can be confusing to others when you’re out as someone with a desire to have a Poly heart. A poly heart wants to love more than one, and to love each one fully and devotedly.

Sometimes being poly means loving one person fully and devotedly and having more intentionally temporary play relationships with others.

A poly heart wants fidelity, devotion, connection. Truth be told, it’s vulnerable to want what you want.

The poly community needs more positive role models and representations of healthy poly relating.

At the end of the day, to be poly isn’t to rush into sex with new lovers, have disconnected group sex, or haphazardly navigate a perceived playing field.

It’s a way of being that commits to placing high quality attention on others, communicating with compassion, and moving at the right pace for everyone to leave better than before they started.

Poly relating can look a lot of different ways. Sometimes it’s just two people, placing their attention on each other until they figure out what the next right move is to open up a more inclusive love.

Keep on truckin’ little poly. The love is gonna come around.