I dont know that I am good at giving advice in this way, on polyamory because each person is different and what configuration, or personal boundaries are all more of a personal, or partnered choice. But my jumbled thoughts I will try.

so many misconceptions about polyamory. Some people think its about having lots of sex and many partners. Nothing wrong with that 🙂 But it is really about connecting with other people. and a lot of polyam peeps will tell you sex isnt always in abundance.

Polyamory is often described as having ethical relationships that are not sexually exclusive, and are based on consent, honesty, and transparency – everybody on the same team. Some poly people like the hierarchy of the primary/secondary model, others do not. Again, it is up to the people directly involved. Nobody else gets a vote 🙂

So many good books out there. The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities & More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory are both good books.

If polyamory is an interest because open a pre-existing relationship let me tell you now it will not solve pre-existing problems but only aggravate and magnify them.

the biggest thing I can say about polyamory is you have to be willing, & be able to call yourself out and analyze your own feelings because polyamory has so many feelings involved.

As for active in the community FB groups, meet ups, and there is openminded.com I am personally not active in my local poly community.

I will end with saying when it’s good it’s amazing when it’s bad is heartbreaking. but I wouldn’t have it any other way.