soul-vapor:

Favorite thing about being poly??? Go!

Just broke 250 followers.
I dont even know that many people in real life 😮

welcome

polyteaparty:

Can I please stress that polyamory can be fluid and there is not one way to do it (as long as everyone is communicating and honest)? You, and your partners, can change your dynamic whenever you would damn well like. 

charityas:

polythought:

PSA: breaking up with someone because there was no “spark” does not mean you are being shallow. If you feel you are missing a type of connection that feels vital to you, it’s good to be true to yourself and seek relationships that fulfill you. Sometimes, in polyamory, people fill different personal needs with different relationships. But even so, don’t let that be a trap that means you feel obligated to stay in every relationship you start. It is valid to decide to break up with someone if you aren’t feeling right about the time you’re spending together, for any reason.

People on a Facebook thread I was just reading were suggesting that it’s immature to make relationship decisions based on a spark or lack thereof. I heartily disagree. While it’s true that passion can wax and wane (which is normal, and not automatically a sign that you need to break up), and that the presence of a spark doesn’t automatically mean a healthy relationship (very important), and the absence doesn’t automatically mean an UNhealthy one, if you have a feeling in the back of your mind that someone just doesn’t excite you enough, or in the ways that you want, IT’S OKAY TO BREAK UP BECAUSE OF THAT. You do not owe anyone a particular kind of relationship just because they treat you well. You can choose to pursue only relationships with certain kinds of connections, and you can choose to let go of or restructure relationships that aren’t meeting your needs. You aren’t selfish or shallow. It is so important to have relationships that make you feel good about how you’re spending your time.

THIS!!! Whether you are poly or mono, this is so important! You do not have to justify your decisions for staying or leaving a relationship.

poly-ve:

Love grows from love’s example.

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A seed – not necessarily ripened or ready, just present – of ideal, unconditional love must exist in order for multiple loves to flourish.