Nor-cal, 33y.o, mom, wife, spoonie…. My life is one of those "had to be there" jokes. Think of it as a peek in to my mind. some NSFW/18+ only please, all most everything is a repost from other social media platform that i can relate with or love. Common topics include: Moon, Space, Coffee, Love, Depression, feelings, poly, ASD & Fibromyalgia
Instead of coming home and saying “Hi honey, I just hooked up with so – and – so, I hope that’s ok,” start out by asking permission first: “Hi babe, I am attracted to so – and – so, how do you feel about me pursuing this?” Opening a dialogue is key.
The better we get with being transparent with each other, the better off we’ll be as a couple in the long run. They say that true intimacy is letting someone see all the way into you, flaws and all. It’s opening up about painful experiences that you may have gone through. It’s talking about the things that scare you and the things that you have overcome. It’s showing someone who you are in love with what makes you weak and allowing them to be your strength where you fall short. It’s trusting someone with certain details of your life that you normally wouldn’t share with anyone else. It’s having the ability to be completely vulnerable in front of someone, and trusting that they’ll never look at you any differently or love you any differently because of that. We can’t hide behind these invisible emotional brick walls that we have put up forever. We both have to learn how to bring our walls down, so that we both can build a new home together filled with beautiful memories.
So i had that awesome coffee date turn dinner. We shall call him WILTON..until a better nickname sticks. we clicked sooo well. Im mind blown how nervous i was going, but i walked in saw him. Hugged and we started talking all my nervousness was gone. I was transparent shared my IG with him so his wifey could scope me out. I dont want waves or to be a thorn in anyones side.
well… something pulled the plug on things until they feels they are stable. I bowed down, nothing personal i get it. I kinda saw it coming. Just sucked we clicked so well.
As for Tower and I.
I had a few issues. NRE prematurely died, somethings needed addressed and i needed to express my dislikes. I suck at communication when emotional so i typed a long , organized my thoughts and shared. Took me days to do so i didnt expect an answer. Only time and physically showing me he got what i meant would change things.
I have more transparency now from him, hes going through a lot, his lifes been a little messy, but sees how important effort is for me, for us.
Today we talked, cuddles and re connected. I feel a lot better. We shall see whay transpires from here.
Bestie & hubby are over Tower and I. They feel hes spread to thin and i deserve more than he can give. But they support my choices to see what comes from change.
Hubby and i are well. Hes been fallowing my kink blog and has learned a few need tricks. Hes super supportive of a 4 day trip im fixing to take with sis. We are good. And i like when we are good!
Perpetual Commotion 