in terms of poly people and monogamous people dating my thinking is this:
it can totally work!!! if you are all happy and totally understand the arrangement.
be honest about your relationships and interactions with other people, but never ever make each other feel guilty about each other’s lifestyles. jealousy happens to both poly and monogamous people, but talk it out honestly. don’t blame anyone, just explain your feelings. leave room for your partner to explain their feelings.
if you do not feel comfortable with the arrangement, you have every right to leave, poly or monogamous. it’s a completely understandable reason to leave a relationship because you are no longer comfortable with the poly elements of it, or if your partner is pushing for you to become monogamous. you can’t just ‘become’ monogamous, and you can’t just ‘become’ poly.
top tips:
don’t guilt each other. neither lifestyle is more correct than the other.
a poly partner is not selfish for having more than one partner besides the monogamous one, and the monogamous partner is not selfish for just wanting to be with their poly partner.
have a mutual understanding of what polyamory is. if you don’t like it, don’t get into that relationship in the first place. you might really like them, you might really want to be with them, but if it isn’t your cup of tea, getting with them is only going to lead to a world of hurt for you all. you want your tea warm, not seething, friends!!
if there is an issue, discuss it. please. none of this avoiding business.
jealousy will happen, but if it’s to the point where you begin to feel inadequate and unhappy in the relationship, maybe it’s time to reconsider.
Today my nurse from yesterday asked About my visitors yesteday. I had told her my hubby was coming to take my valuables home. And suprized my BF came in. We held hands and puppy eyed eachother. When hubby got there i had introduced him. So she was confused. It was the frist time i openly answered yes the frist visitors was my boyfriend the 2nd was my hubby with our kids. She asked how longni had been separated. I said im not. Been together 15 yrs im polyamorous and yes they both know. We where suposed to all go out but i got admitted here. She was impressed and happy for me. Said most ppl who have a husband and a boyfriend end up woth hallway fights out side there rooms lol intold her we all know and im very lucky to have both loving guys in my life.
That was the most freeing honest moment ever
Hospital visit
I was admitted today. For infection. Auto immune does that.
But he drove up to see me.
I was utterly shocked
I held his hand confused my nurse i didnt care.
I was so shocked at his effort
Most guys run when my health gets bad. It scares them.
He stepped up, showed effort.
Im so impressed
Hubby… wants this as his wedding ring tattoo. We have talked about doing them for a long time. His linenof work rings are dangerous. Recently he said he wants the poly symbol. Its been apart of our life for a long time. The eternity & heart alone means a lot, but the double meaning brings me to tears. my love, loves me whole, unconditionally and i couldnt ask for a better life partner.
This photo started everything ..
Perpetual Commotion 