Always say ‘yes’ to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? what could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say ‘yes’ to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.
~Eckhart Tolle (via under-same-sky)
This was one part of my besties pep talk that got me out the door to that party
Also knowing i am not part of the normal group i can see how that makes me an unknown outsider and could cause discomfort to the others
i basically assume that people don’t like me unless they explicitly tell me they like me and then periodically remind me
Huge night
Oh my poly friends/fallowers i had to share. I went to a birthday party for my ….. no label…. and all his poly peeps were there. I dont mingle and i dont like my poly-cule bubbles tounching, i like my relationships (bubbles) solo. but i knew it would mean a lot to him if i could overcome anxiety and come to his birthday party…..
Lots and lots on anxiety meds, bff pep talk and i did it. I went for 3 hrs
My favorite part was catching him watching me to make sure i was okay, from across the room. His smile was like a comforting hug.
He walked me out and shared how much he appreciated me coming. Another speical night.
Whats a label?
For me its always brought forth a level of understanding, some kind of commitment, connection, comfort.
This dont have a label. Currently its two people really interested in eachother. Butterflies and NRE, Crazy life’s, making time when we can, and it gets phyical every other time we see eachother because the chemistry pops!
I’m not a gf, yet it dont feel casual to either of us. I understand his limits, restriction and respect them. He “gushes” about me to his others. I could comfortably call him a bf, im mostly content with what this is. ( to early for some things like kink talked have yet to try)
so… hubby calls him my bf, 2 friends whom know im polyamorous call him my bf……
Titles just comfort me. But his hugs and kisses comfort me, him listening, his friendship…. and i think I’ll just keep enjoying what i got in the moment.
When Your Crush Shows Interest ✨
HONESTLY
Its a hard line sometimes. Got phyical together…… need to step back… timing not right in his life more than mine…. but we excite eachother immensely *sigh*
How to be an amazing partner, poly or not.
Be courageous
Ask for what you need. Ask for what you want.
Listen.
Know yourself.
Be honest with yourself and your partner(s).
Own your shit. Seriously. Humility, curiosity and honesty are a huge part of this, and you must be willing to take responsibility for your part – emotions, actions, all of it.
Love boldly and with great compassion.
Again!
Perpetual Commotion 